Self-improvement has gone mainstream. In recent years, since I
I wrote articles and submitted them to article sites, I did
noticed that the "Self-improvement" category appeared.
lately when he had never been there before. For me this is great news.
But what does it actually mean to 'improve yourself'? What are we really?
improve when we improve ourselves? And which 'self' do we improve? Each of us has two "selves" - our wounded self and our central Self. WE
The central self is our true self, our natural soul self - our essence. Our core
Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our
creativity. We enter this life as our central Self, and when this is the Self
loved and appreciated by our parents, we naturally continue to be our God-
gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our being. This Self
he wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to express himself fully. But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed,
create an alternative self, a self that we hope to gain control over
the love we need and avoid the pain we can't handle - a self to help
we feel safe. This is our false self, our wounded self, our egoic self. This
itself is filled with the false beliefs we absorbed as we grew up
up - beliefs that ultimately limit our true central Self. Not this in itself
it needs improvement - it needs healing.
The term "self-improvement" can sometimes be a bit misleading,
because we don't want to improve our wounded selves. We do not want
to improve the ways we lie, manipulate and avoid in our efforts
be in control to get love and avoid pain. We do not want
improve our many addictions to substances and processes. we do not
we want to improve our anger, our respect, our withdrawal and ours
resistence.
We want to cure it.
Healing and improving are not the same thing. We can definitely improve on skills. We can improve
Sport, art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and
Well-being by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve
knowing that we must be more successful professionally and
Silver. Maybe we can improve our relationships by learning new things
communication skills. But what happens if you gain new knowledge and skills?
it does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or ours
proportions? What if learning new skills doesn't bring us more joy?
and inner peace? It can mean healing the underlying fears
and false beliefs that make us feel anxious, depressed, stressed, guilty
ridden, shameful, withdrawn, angry, scolding or sad.
Sometimes self-improvement just means practicing one skill and others
sometimes it means we have to participate in a deep healing process.
For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight
and sport. But when their uncured binge lurks
pain, they may not be able to change their diet easily. They may have to
open to a healing process to eventually get better.
When you're really trying to improve but you're stuck and unable
to make progress or to find that you have no inner joy or peace, you may want to
open up to the possibility of unhealed pain and blocked beliefs
Your progress and causes your pain. It's easy to improve when
nothing blocks the way. But if you have old false beliefs
Your relevance and worth, these beliefs can block your ability to do so
Act lovingly for your own sake. All your efforts to improve yourself will do so
it will not give you the satisfaction you seek if you have beliefs that I am
keeping yourself limited in fully expressing your true core Self. if you are
stuck, then you have to look for a healing process, like the inner one
Attachment process we teach, which will get you out of fears and
beliefs that limit you. The healing of these limiting fears and beliefs opens up
the door to improve your life in every way possible.
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